Master Jim, International Master 2001, is a leatherman who has been involved in the SM/Leather community for over 20 years. During that time, he has presented seminars and weekend programs on Master/slave relationships across the U.S. and Canada. Master Jim is one of the owners of South Plains Leatherfest-International Master/slave weekend (www.southplainsleatherfest.com) held in Dallas each year and is a co-owner of the International Master/slave title contest held at South Plains.
Although Master Jim is well versed in many SM tools and techniques, he is most interested in the dynamics of Master/slave relationships. For Master Jim, the psychological, emotional, and mental elements are the core – and the most fascinating part — of these relationships.
Master Jim identifies sexually as a gay leatherman; however, he is comfortable being served by persons of any gender or sexual orientation. Currently, he is the owner of a biological female slave, slave marsha, who has been in service to him for over 20 years. Master Jim, slave marsha, and slave marsha’s mate, Cougar, live together as a leather family. Master Jim also has a Sir/ boy relationship with boy alex from Toronto and he has Keith as a man in service.
slave marsha, International slave 2001, has been involved in SM for nearly 18 years. She has been in service to Master Jim of Dallas for over 20 years as his slave, and prior to that, another 1 ½ years as his “woman in service.” slave marsha frequently assists Master Jim in presenting seminars on Master/slave relationships across the U.S. and Canada. Among other projects, slave marsha is a co-owner of South Plains Leatherfest –International Master/slave Weekend (www.southplainsleatherfest.com) in Dallas, and is one of the co-owners of the International Master/slave title contest.
In 1990 Sir Cougar wandered into the community and didn’t look back. Mentored by the gay boys, he became a fixture in the Texas community with his club activities and memberships.
Currently, he is one of the owners of South Plains Leatherfest-International Master/slave Contest and devotes most of his time to helping local events and enjoying family life with Master Jim and slave marsha. While he prefers working behind the scenes, he can occasionally be coaxed out to give classes or perform as a drag king.
Tiny Service: When Size Doesn’t Matter
When you think of “service” in a Master/slave relationship, what comes to mind? A “high leather dinner?” Your home as Downton Abby, complete with a butler? Your slave as personal valet, available at a moment’s notice?
Service is integral in maintaining a M/s dynamic. But not all service tasks are “equal” in impact – service can be “big” but add little value to the overall relationship, or “small” in scope but huge in impact. As our lives become busier and the demands of the outside world increase, consider the concept of “tiny service” – how to find the little acts of service that make big differences. Join Master Jim and slave marsha as they share how and why the concept of “tiny service” became important to them, how to assess the impact of a particular kind of service on your relationship, and some ideas for finding the “tiny service” that’s right for you.
Caution! Under Construction: Building a Family of Choice
Although SM has become more visible to mainstream America, those of us in the SM/leather communities remain marginalized. Even when blood families accept or tolerate their “kinky” members, few will totally embrace them. As a result, many in our communities have turned to the idea of creating a family of choice where the can be totally open about who and what they are.
But what is a family of choice? Does it mean you have to be polyamorous? Do you have to live together? How do you go about building one — or even more importantly, what should you avoid doing? Join Master Jim, slave marsha, and Sir Cougar for an open discussion of how their family of choice was formed, how it is maintained, and how it has evolved. While they can’t provide a “one size fits all” blueprint for creating a family of choice, they can tell you what has worked (and what hasn’t) for a gay leatherman and two leather dykes – one femme, one butch – who mixed together a long-standing M/s relationship, a partnered relationship, and a patriarchy all under the same roof.
If We Had to Do it AlI Over Again: Our Twenty Years as Master and slave
Master Jim and slave marsha have now been in an M/s relationship for just over 20 years. In fact, for most of her adult life, slave marsha has been owned by Master Jim and lived in a relationship some would say is impossible…or abusive…or at best, delusional.
Now as they begin their third decade together, they will share with you their story and discuss how their M/s relationship was built, maintained, and evolved and somehow withstood the many tests that time has thrown at them. Whether you’re in your first years of a Master/slave relationship, have many years under your belt, or are just curious why on earth two relatively sane people would enter into a relationship like this, you owe it to yourself to hear the passion and raw honesty they will share with you about their 20 years together. And yes… they would do it all over again. In a heartbeat.