Each of us has a journey to take as we grow as kinky people. There are pitfalls and pleasures around every corner. Too often we find ourselves wondering if we are “doing it right.” We seek advice from the internet, other people, and books only to find conflicting descriptions of ‘the right way’. Sometimes just minding our own business advice is pushed onto us through tips, suggestions, or downright criticism. This workshop will offer a frank discussion of how to find your true path, how to manage both solicited and unsolicited advice, authenticity, and how to recognize where you are in your journey.